Comments on: 自我增值 http://www.a-chinaman.com/2006/05/28/self-improvement/ 一個中國人, 這是我的故事 Fri, 21 Nov 2008 20:10:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: タニア http://www.a-chinaman.com/2006/05/28/self-improvement/#comment-575 タニア Wed, 31 May 2006 09:27:13 +0000 http://64.22.124.146/wordpress/?p=96#comment-575 Not looking straight in a person's eyes seems to be a common behavior for people who just started out working. I guess, like yourself, they feel it might offend or seems rude. But actually, for us who has been working for over many (many) years, it's only natural to look straight in the speaker's eyes because not only does it show you are actively listening but also you are ready to contribute to the conversation. It is not necessary that someone is trying to project a sense of self-confidence but I guess when you feel comfortable looking "softly" into others eyes, it makes people think you are confident. Even in a non-working setting, you look at your friends when you talk to them, right? The key is to just be natural. I also saw the clip on You Tube recently on the bus incident. I feel disgusted with the whole incident but I feel sorry for the younger man who had to put up with it. It is incident like this that reminds me why I never wanted to live and work in Hong Kong. Not looking straight in a person’s eyes seems to be a common behavior for people who just started out working. I guess, like yourself, they feel it might offend or seems rude. But actually, for us who has been working for over many (many) years, it’s only natural to look straight in the speaker’s eyes because not only does it show you are actively listening but also you are ready to contribute to the conversation. It is not necessary that someone is trying to project a sense of self-confidence but I guess when you feel comfortable looking “softly” into others eyes, it makes people think you are confident. Even in a non-working setting, you look at your friends when you talk to them, right? The key is to just be natural.

I also saw the clip on You Tube recently on the bus incident. I feel disgusted with the whole incident but I feel sorry for the younger man who had to put up with it. It is incident like this that reminds me why I never wanted to live and work in Hong Kong.

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