自我增值
目不轉睛
我從小就很愛讀書，自己固然會買想看的書，家裡各種的書刊雜誌也都會看。最不喜歡的，是媽媽那些關於管理學啊，如何自我增值之類的書，一直都覺得看那種書很浪費時間，也從不會去翻翻看。
最近，不知為什麼開始對自我增值的書感了興趣。可能是在找工作的原故，我開始特別注意別人對我的反應。也因為這樣，我買了一本如何與人溝通的書，每天只看一點點。
書裡說，保持肯定的目光是最好的法門。在看這本書之前，我也想過這個問題。我覺得我說話的時候，不常直接看對手的眼睛，這代表我不是一個好的談話對手嗎？談話時目不轉睛地瞪着一個人，真的可行嗎？
斷背的壓力
這一陣子，巴士阿伯的片子在網上大熱。「我有壓力，你有壓力」和「未解決！」成了城中的流行語。再前一陣子，李安的得獎電影也牽起了一股斷背熱，令「每個人心裡都有一座斷背山」變成所有人的口頭禪。從電台聽到這些笑話，我也想跟在這裡的朋友分享，但是卻找不到知音。
タニア:
Not looking straight in a person’s eyes seems to be a common behavior for people who just started out working. I guess, like yourself, they feel it might offend or seems rude. But actually, for us who has been working for over many (many) years, it’s only natural to look straight in the speaker’s eyes because not only does it show you are actively listening but also you are ready to contribute to the conversation. It is not necessary that someone is trying to project a sense of self-confidence but I guess when you feel comfortable looking “softly” into others eyes, it makes people think you are confident. Even in a non-working setting, you look at your friends when you talk to them, right? The key is to just be natural.
I also saw the clip on You Tube recently on the bus incident. I feel disgusted with the whole incident but I feel sorry for the younger man who had to put up with it. It is incident like this that reminds me why I never wanted to live and work in Hong Kong.
31 May 2006, 4:27 am